"@waynemansfieldRT @preneur: Seriously can everyone stop complaining & make something of their lives. If you don't like "it", ignore it & move on."
Great advice, but one small flaw: if you don't complain about a thing, you might not be aware of a possible solution.
There may be more positive ways to find solutions, but sometimes the fastest way to a solution is being a thorn in some one's side.
It's also a fast way to lose friends and make enemies.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Bill Handy, lord of social media, warned me
Bill warned me about misspelling and grammar mistakes in my blog, and other social media, posts. It seems that late night blogging with a "one-click post" is not a good idea for me.
Not because my ideas are flawed--or maybe they are and I'm just in denial--but because I forget to edit and spellcheck, which makes me look unprofessional. I tend to run a little hotheaded at times; also unprofessional in appearance.
And appearing unprofessional under any circumstances is a bad idea.
It's bad when my mother--hi Ma--can read my blog and say, "This is good stuff, but you've got a lot of editing to do."
And she's absolutely right--at least about the editing part.
Not because my ideas are flawed--or maybe they are and I'm just in denial--but because I forget to edit and spellcheck, which makes me look unprofessional. I tend to run a little hotheaded at times; also unprofessional in appearance.
And appearing unprofessional under any circumstances is a bad idea.
It's bad when my mother--hi Ma--can read my blog and say, "This is good stuff, but you've got a lot of editing to do."
And she's absolutely right--at least about the editing part.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Fear transferal
Transferring to Oklahoma State has been both the best and worst decision of my life.
A dramatic statement to be sure, but it's an accurate one.
When I left Tech last spring, I left not just the state I grew up with behind as well as everyone I knew and loved. I left behind an understanding about who I was meant to be, what I was supposed to be doing and a skill set that I'd spent years trying to perfect.
But all that I had to leave behind.
Not only am I in a state that's completely different from Arkansas in geography, climate and people but also in what's socially accepted as OK. For that reason, I have a hard time communicating myself well to Oklahomans.
I left behind a skill set in fictional and creative writing; sure I'd taken a few JB classes before coming to OSU, but nothing could have prepared me for my change in major.
Everything I thought I knew and understood changed when I came to OSU. I'm just now realizing that I know nothing about who I am anymore, and what I'm supposed to be doing. And being half way through my college career, that's definitely terrifying.
I think it's safe to say that I've never been so scared in my life.
But the people here, are amazing. I was talking to one of the members of my beat about OSU and she hit the nail on the head when she said that she "fell in love with everyone here."
Sure, I've managed to ruin things with some people that I cared a lot about because I was being an idiot and not dealing with my own issues on my own time; for that I have no right, reason or desire to forgive myself from something that's that unforgivable.
But the people here... They're so liberal and pure compared to most Arkansans. Don't get me wrong, I love my fellow Arkansans.
Another good thing about the transfer is that while I'm not aware of what the heck I'm doing right now, the classes are way more in depth than anything I ever had at Tech. I feel that when I graduate from OSU, I'll be better prepared to enter whatever field I will go into.
A dramatic statement to be sure, but it's an accurate one.
When I left Tech last spring, I left not just the state I grew up with behind as well as everyone I knew and loved. I left behind an understanding about who I was meant to be, what I was supposed to be doing and a skill set that I'd spent years trying to perfect.
But all that I had to leave behind.
Not only am I in a state that's completely different from Arkansas in geography, climate and people but also in what's socially accepted as OK. For that reason, I have a hard time communicating myself well to Oklahomans.
I left behind a skill set in fictional and creative writing; sure I'd taken a few JB classes before coming to OSU, but nothing could have prepared me for my change in major.
Everything I thought I knew and understood changed when I came to OSU. I'm just now realizing that I know nothing about who I am anymore, and what I'm supposed to be doing. And being half way through my college career, that's definitely terrifying.
I think it's safe to say that I've never been so scared in my life.
But the people here, are amazing. I was talking to one of the members of my beat about OSU and she hit the nail on the head when she said that she "fell in love with everyone here."
Sure, I've managed to ruin things with some people that I cared a lot about because I was being an idiot and not dealing with my own issues on my own time; for that I have no right, reason or desire to forgive myself from something that's that unforgivable.
But the people here... They're so liberal and pure compared to most Arkansans. Don't get me wrong, I love my fellow Arkansans.
Another good thing about the transfer is that while I'm not aware of what the heck I'm doing right now, the classes are way more in depth than anything I ever had at Tech. I feel that when I graduate from OSU, I'll be better prepared to enter whatever field I will go into.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
No more gutsy; or at least keep it down
We can never be more than 50 percent right. And that's a liberal estimate.
With today's world of perception equalling reality, there are always at least two perceptions, and therefore we can only be 50 percent truly right at most.
If we seek to understand as many perspectives on a situation as we can, we are able to make a more educated guess as to what truly is right but we can never be positive.
Just because we think we know a situation from multiple perspectives, doesn't mean that we do. There could be only two perspectives or an infinite number.
No matter what, we're always having to go with our best guess as to what is right. And more often than not, we're wrong.
That's terrifying.
Note to self: this causes communications problems, always be cautious.
With today's world of perception equalling reality, there are always at least two perceptions, and therefore we can only be 50 percent truly right at most.
If we seek to understand as many perspectives on a situation as we can, we are able to make a more educated guess as to what truly is right but we can never be positive.
Just because we think we know a situation from multiple perspectives, doesn't mean that we do. There could be only two perspectives or an infinite number.
No matter what, we're always having to go with our best guess as to what is right. And more often than not, we're wrong.
That's terrifying.
Note to self: this causes communications problems, always be cautious.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
Ideals and communiation
Despite my pessimism, I'm still an idealist.
I believe that people should be evaluated on the reality of their actions and their merits on an individual basis.
Unfortunately, I find that for most people their perception is their reality, which is why I am a pessimist. And I am the most guilty of this.
I hold everyone around me to high standards, but I hold myself to the highest standards of all; I always wind up being disappointed in myself.
I need to remember to try to have people explain their perspectives to me when I'm trying to communicate to them. I've been guesstimating lately and that's just been a hit-or-miss.
I also need to find a way to better communicate my perspective to others; since (probably before) November 2008 that's been causing me some major problems.
Lately I've been wondering if I'd be better off trying to communicate in Morse Code--I don't even know Morse Code, but I've begun to wonder if I would communicate more effectively to others if I used it instead of what I "know."
I believe that people should be evaluated on the reality of their actions and their merits on an individual basis.
Unfortunately, I find that for most people their perception is their reality, which is why I am a pessimist. And I am the most guilty of this.
I hold everyone around me to high standards, but I hold myself to the highest standards of all; I always wind up being disappointed in myself.
I need to remember to try to have people explain their perspectives to me when I'm trying to communicate to them. I've been guesstimating lately and that's just been a hit-or-miss.
I also need to find a way to better communicate my perspective to others; since (probably before) November 2008 that's been causing me some major problems.
Lately I've been wondering if I'd be better off trying to communicate in Morse Code--I don't even know Morse Code, but I've begun to wonder if I would communicate more effectively to others if I used it instead of what I "know."
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