Ideals and communiation

Despite my pessimism, I'm still an idealist.
I believe that people should be evaluated on the reality of their actions and their merits on an individual basis.
Unfortunately, I find that for most people their perception is their reality, which is why I am a pessimist. And I am the most guilty of this.
I hold everyone around me to high standards, but I hold myself to the highest standards of all; I always wind up being disappointed in myself.
I need to remember to try to have people explain their perspectives to me when I'm trying to communicate to them. I've been guesstimating lately and that's just been a hit-or-miss.
I also need to find a way to better communicate my perspective to others; since (probably before) November 2008 that's been causing me some major problems.
Lately I've been wondering if I'd be better off trying to communicate in Morse Code--I don't even know Morse Code, but I've begun to wonder if I would communicate more effectively to others if I used it instead of what I "know."